“Let’s talk about the curious case of Male Inconsistus—aka, that man who starts off like Prince Charming in your inbox but slowly fades into a boring version of “wyd” with no punctuation, no emotion, and definitely no effort.
Like, sir… what happened?
It always starts the same. You meet a guy, and within 24 hours he’s hit you with the “Good morning, beautiful” text. You’re sipping your coffee, smiling at your phone like it’s your birthday, thinking, He’s different. He’s intentional. He probably folds his laundry and pays his taxes on time. You start imagining brunches, matching pajamas, soft life Sundays… and then—BOOM—two weeks later, he’s texting like a robot with a dying battery.
Suddenly, “Good morning, beautiful” turns into “gm.” “Hope your day is amazing” turns into “sup.”And that midnight “I was thinking about you” turns into radio silence unless you’re posting a selfie.
Excuse me, sir… is this a text relationship or a ghost tour?
What’s wild is they reel you in like a fish at a bass tournament. The compliments, the emojis, the thoughtful little messages that make your heart flutter. You’re thinking, Okay, consistency? Emotional maturity? Communication skills? Look at God!
But the truth is, some men treat effort like a 14-day trial—they give you premium behavior until the subscription ends. Then it’s back to the free version with limited features.
And here’s the kicker: When you call them out, it’s always “I’ve just been busy,” or “You’re overthinking,” or my favorite, “I didn’t think you liked me like that.”Sir, you were voice-noting me poems and calling me “your peace.” Now I’m just your 8th option on a Tuesday night when you’re bored and waiting for DoorDash.
Let’s be real: some men start things they have no intention of finishing. It’s like downloading an app, never using it, and then wondering why your phone’s acting slow.
Fellas, if you can’t keep that same “Good Morning, Beautiful” energy, don’t start with it. Don’t text like a future husband and then downgrade to “Text Me If You Want To” energy. We notice. We screenshot. And yes—we discuss it in the group chat.
Ladies, remember this: consistency is not too much to ask for—it’s the bare minimum. If he’s inconsistent now, imagine planning a wedding with him. You’ll end up saying “I do” while he’s still trying to decide between RSVPing or ghosting.
So if you find yourself staring at dry “wyd” texts from a man who used to send you morning blessings like a gospel radio host, do yourself a favor: close the chat, raise your standards, and moisturize your heart with someone who actually knows how to apply effort daily—not just during the talking stage.
Moral of the story: If you can’t keep up the energy, don’t start the fire. This isn’t The Hunger Games—may the consistent man win.
Let’s talk about it!